Day Dreams

Day dream - is that something that you no longer allow yourself to do? So many of the people I talk to say they can't remember when they 'allowed' themselves to day dream. It seems that as we continue to mature - or when we became 'adults' - that day dreaming was something we gave up. Sometime between childhood and today, we have lost touch with the ability or willingness to day dream. But I believe that daydreams, imagination, and creativity are very important tools in designing the life we want.


So often when we do try to visualize what our life will be like when it is the way we would like, we are not able to 'see' it because we immediately become afraid. Fear of so many things comes over us - fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of success, etc. Visualization requires the ability to day dream or to see something 'in your mind's eye'. Many believe that if we can visualize it, we can create it, or at least develop a plan to bring it into being. If we cannot visualize it, it is very unlikely that we can do no more than just wish or hope for it. And wishing and hoping, alone, do not usually bring about results.


Give yourself permission to sit quietly or with soft music or quiet sounds of nature surrounding you and clear your mind of the day-to-day worries. Focus on you and your innermost wishes; or focus on nothing, just listen to your breathing and the soothing sounds. Many people need to build up to doing visualizations - take it slowly - maybe start with just 5 or 10 minutes of sitting quietly and build up to 15 or 20, then 30 minutes of solitude. When you are able to do that you can begin to focus your attention on filling in the blanks or listening to your heart. What is missing from your life? What do you need to fulfill you? What would bring you joy/happiness? Consider whatever aspect of your life you believe needs something different.


During your quiet time, if distracting thoughts creep into your mind, put them aside for the time. You can deal with that issue or those problems or that 'what if worry' later. Take the time to allow yourself to daydream and to believe.





Mary Ann Davis is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in private practice providing coaching and counseling for life's transitions; including career and job search, as well as loss of job, retirement planning, non-retirement planning, coping with an empty nest, and other life planning issues. She is certified as a Master Career Counselor (MCC) by the National Career Counseling Association, a Life/Work Counselor by the National Employment Counseling Association, and is a Distance Credentialed Counselor (DCC). Please visit her web site at http://www.yourcareerplan.com/ for more information on her services.


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